Intercourse should not be resumed until the vagina has healed; this takes at least 10 days, and several weeks after a tear or an episiotomy. However, many couples prefer to wait for at least 6 weeks, when a full post-natal check-up is routinely done. The vagina will be very sensitive at first, and possibly dry, in which case a lubricant such as KY jelly should be used. Pelvic floor exercises will help to tone up the muscles around the vagina; when you pass water, try to stop and restart the flow of urine several times.
Many factors can cause loss of libido at this time - pain, lack of sleep, emotional exhaustion, anxiety, fear of another pregnancy... It is possible to become pregnant again even before your periods restart, so some form of contraception will be necessary for a few months even if you are planning to have another baby; breastfeeding cannot be relied on to prevent ovulation.
The remedies listed below are helpful in that they boost energy levels generally. However, if loss of libido persists for more than a few months, constitutional homeopathic treatment should be sought if the problem lies in the relationship between you and your partner, sexual counselling might be more helpful.
Specific remedies to be taken every 12 hours for up to 2 weeks
- Feeling very battered, bruised, and low in energy Arnica 30c
- Feeling exhausted after loss of blood, sweat, or other body fluids China 30c
- Feeling emotionally fragile and weepy, especially in stuffy rooms Pulsatilla 30c
- Aversion to sex, chilliness, irritability depression Sepia 30c